

Here are a few different clitoral stimulation techniques you might try: Explore a variety of techniquesĭifferent techniques can elicit different types of pleasure, and how you go about stimulating yourself is completely up to you. Then, apply more pressure or speed as your body asks for it. When you do start touching your clit, start out with gentle strokes. “So begin to stroke around your clitoris, touching your labia without directly going for the clit for a bit until you feel ready for that type of stimulation.”

“It takes your clitoris some time to get aroused and for blood to begin to flow,” she explains.

Sadat has one universal tip for clitoral stimulation: Give your body a chance to warm up. In other words, touching yourself can help someone else touch you better. “You may notice that stimulating in round patterns feels better than up and down, or that you enjoy stimulation using your inner labia over your clitoris rather than direct clitoral stimulation,” Sadat explains. Masturbating gives you a chance to explore what feels good, she says. “It’s hard to know what to ask for from your partner if you don’t know what you like,” says Diana Sadat, a sex therapist and clinical counselor in Vancouver, British Columbia. Pleasuring yourself can also help untangle shame that affects confidence with yourself, partnered sex, or in a relationship. You won’t go blind! You won’t get addicted! You won’t ruin yourself for partnered play! And, no, it’s not cheating on a partner, either! So allow us to affirm: Masturbation is totally healthy and common. Many people were taught that masturbation is dirty and dangerous, or something that should never ever be talked about.
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Reading this guide to learn how to best pleasure your own clit? Before you read any further, take a breath. Remind yourself that masturbation is totally healthy They also swell when you’re hot and bothered.Įxactly how to stimulate the clitoris 1. The bulbs reach through and behind the labia, around the vaginal canal, and toward the anus. The vestibular bulbs form an upside-down heart shape, with the urethra and the vaginal canal at the heart’s cleavage. These “legs” straddle the urethra and the vaginal canal and become enlarged with blood when you’re turned on. The clitoral body branches off to form two appendages. The clitoral body consists of two corpora cavernosa that become erect during arousal. It connects to the glans and is suspended from the pubic bone via a ligament. When you’re aroused, the hood retracts slightly to expose the glans. The labia minora connect to form the clitoral hood. We all like a good hoodie, and the clitoris is no different. Even though it’s ‘the size of a pea,’ it holds thousands of nerve endings. This is the external nub many folks think of when picturing the clitoris. Knowing every part of your clitoris is kind of like putting together a unique outfit.Įach part of the body and the makeup below is different. Instead, assuming you or your vulva-having partner consent to it, you want to try stimulating the clit through internal play. In that regard, you don’t want to only touch the parts of the clit you can see the way you might touch a penis. However, the idea that a clit is *just* a pearl-sized penis is inaccurate. It’s true that there are anatomical similarities between penises and clits. (Some experts say the clit looks like an upside-down flower, with large petals extending inside the body that embodies the vaginal canal). “The shape is often referred to as a wishbone, with some parts of the wishbone being visible on the outside of the body, but with the majority of it being hidden inside,” Deysach says. The legs and the bulbs contain erectile tissue that expands when sexually aroused. It has legs (or crura) and vestibular bulbs that wrap around the vagina, she explains. “But inside the body, the clitoris has a whole hidden structure.” “On the outside of the body, you can find the glans of the clit, usually covered by a nifty hood that protects it from too much stimulation,” explains longtime sex educator Searah Deysach, the owner of Early to Bed, a pleasure-product company in Chicago that ships world-wide. There are actually external *and* internal components to the clitoris. The most common answer to this question is: The clit is the pea-shaped structure at the apex of the two labia.Īnd while that’s part of the clitoris, that’s only the external portion.
